If you’re not a feminist, you either don’t know what feminism is, or you’re a bag of dicks.
That is all.
I never gave much notice of this statistic. Until I found out that a co-worker with the same job title as me was being paid $2/hour more than I was. Although I had been working a year longer than he had.
I thought, oh prob a mistake. No, my other co worker (female) with the same job who was hired a month after him was being paid $2 less as well.
The ironic part is that I found out about this, bc he and I were talking about feminism. And he says women are equal, and I pointed out women are paid less. And when I told him how much I was paid, his jaw dropped. Sadly, I proved my point.
Do not equate being single with being alone. I was thinking about this recently because of the phrase ‘just friends’ and ‘more than friends.’ That phrase implies that like, being ‘just friends’ with someone is somehow less than being in a romantic relationship with them - that like, friendship is a continuum that ends with sex. Which is an extremely weird thing to think and say, but it’s so built into our language that we don’t even think about how incredibly strange it is.
We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.
“I want a woman who can sit me down, shut me up, tell me ten things I don’t already know, and make me laugh. I don’t care what you look like, just turn me on. And if you can do that, I will follow you on bloody stumps through the snow. I will nibble your mukluks with my own teeth. I will do your windows. I will care about your feelings. Just have something in there.” - Henry Rollins